And this is where the Gap comes in, because the Gap opens at 9 A.M., and there's probably one not .) It's stressful figuring out how to be an adult—a real adult—while at the same time figuring out what you want from life: from your career, from your friends, and from relationships.But I also acknowledge that there is no legitimate reason for my cynicism toward guys—or anyone—inviting people from outside of Harvard to its social events.I, too, find myself searching for non-Harvard men in my dating (or more often, swiping) endeavors, thanks to the wild hodgepodge of people that pop up within a five mile radius on my Tinder.Annoying adult schedules really don't allow for that kind of romantic simplicity.People have jobs, schedules, and apartments across the city, which makes a casual hang-out situation hard to come by.Do you ever gasp at the gaggle of non-Harvard girls at parties, balking at their question, “Do you go to Harvard”?
The rules change the moment you hand in the keys to your dorm room.(I certainly had never gone on a date date until after college graduation.) But asking someone out on a date is actually great because, in the Real World, your chances of running into them again aren't always as high as when you used to share a cafeteria with everyone on campus.A date can be a movie, a drink, a cup of coffee, a trip to see that cool exhibit at the art museum you'd been talking about, a quick trip to the food trucks during your lunch hour, a long walk.), pre-game when you're going out (sharing a flask can be romantic! You met a guy and he asked you out and took you to a restaurant and the conversation was great and after the meal you took a walk and he took your face in his hands and you kissed and it was SO magical and you keep kissing and you keep kissing and then you both looked at your phones and it was 11 P. and he has to be at work at 7 and you live an hour away and still have a report to finish so you both sort of figure it's time to say goodnight. Which is great, 'cause you're only young once, you know?
) and be on the lookout for free events, like book readings, free museum days, gallery opens, etc. But then you're faced with the dilemma of showing up to your job, where you're trying desperately to be seen in a professional capacity, in yesterday's wrinkled, slightly smoky-smelling outfit.
Dating in the real world is a bit—OK, WAY—different from dating in college.