Charlotte Lieberman, a recent Harvard grad, takes on what's wrong with love on campus. I read with interest the numerous other articles, books, and blog posts about the "me, me, me generation" (as Joel Stein calls us), our rejection of chivalry, and our hookup culture — which is supposedly the downfall of college dating. I didn't walk away from my conversation with Nate expecting a bouquet of roses to follow. Nate never wrote or called me that night, even after I texted him at 11 p.m. As to why you got weird." But Nate didn't acknowledge his weirdness. But I didn't have the energy to tell Nate that I was sick of his (and many other guys') assumption that women spend their days plotting to pin down a man and that ignoring me wasn't the kindest way to tell me he didn't want to lead me on. We were at a party when he approached me and said, "Hey, Charlotte. I'll text you." I assumed the reporter Alex Williams, who argues in his article "The End of Courtship? I talked to a bunch of intelligent, funny, and actively dating females—both co-eds and recent grads—to get the scoop on college dating. “It’s nice to get to know guys in class or in a casual setting, so there’s no pressure on either end.” : What about dating apps? Colette Cacciatore, a University of Georgia sophomore, agrees.
The sense of safe distance that comes with texting is a crutch we all rely on, even if we shouldn’t.
As soon as I walk into the courtyard behind the house, I lock eyes with a tall, well-tanned blonde relaxing atop a pool floaty. Katie Dixon, a senior at UNC Chapel Hill put it like this: “Some of my girl friends are on Bumble, though they mainly use it here for fun and rarely go on dates with any of the matches.” Colette noted that most of the people she knows don’t use them super-seriously, tending to swipe through Tinder or Bumble just to be silly when they’re with friends.
He was the hottest guy I had ever seen in real life. Yung Taylor learned a lot that semester—how to make my meal points last, which library stayed open the latest, and why dating in college can be hard. Listen—it’s your prerogative if you want to expand your dating horizons with apps, especially if you’re in a city with a ton of colleges, like Boston or Los Angeles.
I’m just going to come out and say it: don’t be too cool to show you care.
Young men especially seem to struggle with small acts of kindness, like check-ins and compliments. “I met my boyfriend through a mutual friend,” said Kendal Couch, who recently graduated from a small school in North Carolina.