Instead, couples usually date with the selfish goals of having fun and enjoying romantic attachments.In contrast, courtship is undertaken only when both parties are prepared to make a commitment to marriage.(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.)Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.
The dating couple is merely attracted to one another in some way and often pursues an exclusive relationship that is independent of others’ influence or counsel.
Since the boundaries of the relationship are self-determined, the couple may easily succumb to temptation and fail to consider their responsibility to honor each other in purity and genuine love.