If you’re on e Harmony, then you believe you deserve a great relationship and are doing what you can to find it.
But we’re all prone to getting nervous when we meet someone new, especially when we really like them and think they could be “the one”.
So, the next time you’re out with a man, see what happens when you throw out any pretenses, focus on the present, and just enjoy getting to know the man in front of you. You’ll discover a whole new way of relating to men that will make you feel better about yourself while you find the relationship of your dreams.
__________________ There are specific things you can do to raise your self-esteem that will make you irresistible to a man.
Think about it: do you connect more with someone who acts like she has her life totally together and is perfect, or with a friend who isn’t afraid to bare her soul to you and show you she’s human…just like you? They long to relate to another and feel a connection just the same. And being with a woman who isn’t afraid to show it is a breath of fresh air.
Here’s how to boost your confidence and open yourself up to a real connection with a man.
If you do nothing more than “be yourself,” odds are good that you’ll end up seeming aloof, awkward, or a bit of a dick. “When your body performs for you, whether through daily tasks, physical fitness, or sexual pleasure, you tend to feel better about its appearance and function.”Maybe you’re already a confident person—like your close friends might lovingly refer to you as “a little extra.” How can you tone it down to an attractive and harmonious balance of being confident without appearing overly arrogant?
Step 2: Let Go Of Expectations Have you ever been on a date and, before dessert arrives, you’re already wondering if he’s going to ask you out again or whether you said something to turn him off?We want to appear confident, so we plan ahead with witty lines and clever banter trying to show a man that we’re “cool”.Dating like this can be exhausting – not only are we busy trying to look cool, but we’re not really enjoying ourselves because we’re not really being in the moment.We all fudge things a little bit on the first date or out at the bar. As my roommate says, “Make fun of yourself before someone else can.” A little joke can help break the ice and make you not look like a total douche.
(I’ve definitely tried to put on fake eyelashes pre-date, only to glue them to my cheek instead). But be careful not to try out your amateur stand-up act on a date, Dr.
Confidence is attractive, so find a way that works for you to shelve your insecurities for the evening, because if you tell a person enough times that you’re “not pretty enough” or “not smart enough,” they’re going to perceive you that way. Jess offers a confidence-boosting tactic that might work better for you: “Recall a time when you felt powerful.