If you want someone to blame, how about all the losers who made us this way?
Here are some of the main ways in which we love differently, and how you can help break down those walls if you want to be the one we do end up trusting.
Trust issues are far from uniform: everyone has different experiences and triggers.
If you’re dating someone who’s been cheated on with an ex who was “just a friend,” they will not want you to have a close relationship with your ex.
You’ll need to prove it by having serious discussions about the timeframe in which you want this to happen, how many kids you want, parenting styles, finances, religion (or the lack of it), and how it will affect both of your career paths.
Obviously this conversation doesn’t need to happen right away, but before things get too serious, you should be ready to discuss.
Even after we’re in a relationship, we will still be constantly evaluating it.
When we meet someone new, for example, rather than reacting with pure excitement like we did when we were younger, we are skeptical. How quickly can we find out his true motives so we don’t waste our time or get hurt again?
It’s not fair to anyone, we know, but it’s not our fault.
If you really like us, you’ll have to be the first one to call or text for a little while.
Eventually, by proving that you really do want to be there with us, we’ll trust you enough to send you that cute good morning text without assuming that the consequence will be never hearing from you again.
You’ll have to work your way into our inner circle before we’ll feel comfortable enough to discuss things like financial problems, depression, anxiety, suicide attempts, or past arrests — you know, things that make people realize you’re not perfect and run away.