Many people discuss the psychological impact of single parenting, but often what they forget to take into account is the fact that those effects can be positive as well as negative for both single parents and their children.
Being a single parent can result in a number of challenges, including: However, with the right attitude, these challenges can be overcome and turned into a positive learning experience.
These positive attitudes towards divorce affect not only likelihood of divorce, but also overall relationship quality.
After controlling for age, high levels of post-divorce inter-parental conflict are associated with less positive views of marriage among adolescents.
and those who casually date exhibit “the strongest effects of parental divorce, suggesting that the repercussions of parental divorce may be in place before the young adults form their own romantic relationships.” The divorce of their parents makes dating and romance more difficult for children as they reach adulthood.
Parental divorce horrifies young adults’ heterosexual relationship experiences though the connection is more evident for women than for men, according to one study.
Adult male children of divorced parents show more ambivalence than men from intact families about becoming involved in a relationship, though they invest more money and tangible goods in casual dating relationships.
In particular, “boys who feel close to their fathers, regardless of biological status, have better attitudes about intimacy and the prospect of their own married lives than boys who do not feel close to their fathers.” Daughters of divorced parents anticipated cohabiting before marriage, regardless of the amount of affection between them and their fathers. According to Amato and Booth’s research, the risk is highest when the divorce takes place before the child reaches age 13.
Among daughters of intact marriages, it was mainly those with poor relationships with their fathers who anticipated they would cohabit. The risk that the child will divorce decreases significantly when their parents’ divorce takes place during the teen years.
Women share this ambivalence and demonstrate even more conflict, doubt, and lack of faith in their partner’s benevolence and tend to place less value on consistent commitment. De Boer, “The Transmission of Marital Instability Across Generations: Relationship Skills or Commitment to Marriage? However, if the parents’ conflict is not violent or intense, their children fare better in their own marriages if their parents remain married.
Analysis of the 1987-1988 wave of the National Survey of Families and Households showed that children of divorce whose marriages were less than “very happy” communicated less and were more than twice as likely to argue frequently and to shout and hit when they argued. ,” (New York: Ticknor & Fields, 1989; Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1996), 169-172. Obviously, the best solution for all concerned is that parents learn how to handle conflict and to cooperate with each other, thereby restoring family harmony.From 1972 to 1993, the sample size averaged 1,500 each year. Since 1994, the GSS has been conducted only in even-numbered years and uses two samples per GSS that total approximately 3,000.