However, this "gaijin" appeal doesn't apply to just the girl you're dating, because eventually as you go along she'll start seeing you as a person, but to her friends and family.
Her family was nervewrecking, when I met her parents, her older sister, and her younger brother, it felt like a gaijin interrogation.
When we were alone and private, she called me by my first name but when we get into an argument, she starts calling me by my last name with a -san suffix and with an extremely poisonous passive aggressive debate.
However, now that fiesty woman is now my wife and now, at the age of 26, our 3 year anniversary is coming and we are now expecting our first child to be born within the next 3 months.
When I recently wrote about why gajin (foreign) men like Japanese women, I chastised people for having such a narrow-minded focus. It doesn't matter how much foreign men adore Japanese women if those women do not reciprocate. we can go to any country in the world, and you will probably find some guy who has a penis larger than whatever your national average is.
Never before had I witness polite speech as a way of ridiculing or intent on harm.I knew that going in to these dates, and that was fine. Women who date gaijin men MUST be having sex before marriage - ergo, and I use that word correctly (maybe), she must be a slut. we were sleeping together, but she wanted to keep the sex out of the public's knowledge and just have us appear to be friends. I also think she did not give her father the benefit of a doubt - that maybe he cared more for her happiness than his prestigious job.