Waiting that long was absolutely the right thing for me to do, but I can tell you that I don’t advocate for other women to follow my path, unless it’s evident that they need to do that.I think what people need to do, men or women, they need to take a look at the reason why they want to date because if the reason why you’re wanting to go out and have somebody is because you’re lonely, then that means you don’t know who you are.I went on occasional dates, and I took advantage of that time and did the online dating routine.What became so evident then was that I knew who I was as a person.If you’re newly divorced or in the process of ending things with your spouse, you might be interested in dating again.
So it didn’t take me long to decide I wasn’t going to date a man who had not been divorced for more than one year. But I had to do a lot of changes, and that was my journey.SH: Dating before a divorce is finalized is a very personal decision.If the divorce is contentious, you might even want to check with your lawyer and see if it could be used against you.So, the short answer is, start dating whenever you feel ready.
It’s a good idea to give yourself time to process your breakup. It’s also important to reconnect with your friends and rediscover your hobbies.
The Cheat Sheet spoke with Stella Harris, a coach for the Juicebox app, an anonymous platform for users to have conversations with certified sex and relationship coaches.