Maybe his father or mother criticized him at a crucial age; maybe he was told he was stupid or ugly; maybe his father was very successful and he never felt he could measure up; maybe he was spanked or yelled at in front of other kids when he misbehaved; or he had a learning disability.
Most of us have experiences in our past that caused us to feel ashamed. And here’s another piece of information that John Bradshaw shared in his book “Healing the Shame that Binds You”:rejection, to people with shame, feels like annihilation.
You’ll be the guy who has something honest, real, and powerful to share with her.
By not thinking you’re worthy of a beautiful woman, you’re already one step ahead of every guy who does because you’re THAT MUCH CLOSER to being the real, genuine, and powerful guy she’s looking for. It’ll just come out as whining about not being worthy and all that shit…” Great point. If you think you’re worthy of a beautiful woman, then you’re much more likely to rely on them to feel good about yourself.
If you think a supermodel is within your reach, then it’s FAR easier to fall into the trap of using her to determine your sense of worth in the world. If you don’t think a beautiful woman is within your reach, then there’s no way you can rely on her to feel good.
You’re forced to find another way to experience the fulfilment, happiness, and satisfaction you’re looking for that doesn’t rely on the woman on your arm.
You’ll be free to share yourself with her and have that sharing be exciting, interesting, and attractive, rather than needy and dependent.
Start taking advantage by finding ways to feel independently fulfilled, happy, and free, despite the number of women in your life 3. No seduction techniques, no approaching tactics, just be real, honest, and open.
WHY ARE MEN AFRAID OF INTIMACY AND REJECTION Some men grow up without love and are afraid.